Chris + Pregnancy

Chris has been really cute throughout the pregnancy.  He has wanted to start a family since back when we were in Massachusetts.  The first time he suggested it {on the drive home from grocery shopping one night}, I kinda/sorta/maybe/totally flipped out.  We knew that we were moving to South Bend in a few months and that there was a more than good chance that we’d be moving to New Zealand a year after that.  His thinking was, “OK – so, you get pregnant, we’ll have the baby about a month before we move to New Zealand, and then you’ll have a few weeks to visit family and let them see the baby before we go overseas.  Great plan, huh?!”

Chris is not an only child, but he’s not familiar with pregnant women or babies.  I wish that I could say that I calmly and rationally explained to him why this wasn’t the best option, but it was more like 25 minutes of me loudly telling Chris why that wasn’t a good idea: (a) I needed to get a job in South Bend, and I didn’t want to start a new job when I was pregnant, (b) pregnancy isn’t a cut-and-dried deal: there are complications that warrant things such as bed-rest and you don’t always get pregnant snap, just like that, (c) I didn’t want to plan a cross-global move while pregnant, then effect it with a newborn in my arms, and (d) it was important to me to be able to work in New Zealand and form friendships before staying home with a baby.  Chris quietly and patiently listened to my ranting, then in a calm voice told me that I could have explained all of that without yelling.  Oops.

Once we moved to New Zealand and took some time to get settled in, it was time to start trying for a family.  When Chris found out that I was pregnant {me showing him the positive test, him saying, “What’s that?! Oh!”} he approached it with his typical analytic style: lots of research!  I bought “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” on Kindle and read a few chapters, then quickly grew bored.  It was like a refresher of my Labor & Delivery and Maternal Child Health nursing classes.  Chris, on the other hand, has been reading it for weeks.  He’ll suddenly ask me questions about my DHA intake, what kind of acne medication I’m using, {scandalized gasp, followed by, “None, darling, of course!  I have a perfectly clear peaches-and-cream complexion…!”}, how much water I’m drinking, if I’m getting enough iron… it’s quite cute, really.  I’ve signed up for those, “Your Pregnancy This Week” emails, and Chris was so interested that I started forwarding them to him as well.  He loves to think about the fact that our baby is the size of a lentil or a blueberry or a kidney bean.  The one he’s really looking forward to is week 13, when the baby is supposedly the size of a medium shrimp.  Each week we refer to the baby by that week’s fruit: baby blueberry, baby bean, etc.

My husband is adorable and a sweetheart.  If we’re lucky, the baby will have more of his personality than mine, but he says that he’s just hoping it doesn’t come out looking like him.  This always makes me laugh, which is his intention, and is a further reminder of the fact that I’m married to an amazing man.  A man who, when I’m throwing up for the 5th time will carefully, slowly poke his head into the bathroom and ask if I’m OK {he hates being around that sort of thing, but he’ll do it for me}.  A man who asks how his “babies” are doing, who tells me every day that I’m beautiful and lovely even when I haven’t showered in almost 48 hours because of exhaustion.  This is the kind of man who, if I nearly burst into tears because the stupid blender isn’t working will come up and ask, “What can I do for you, baby?”  He rubs my feet without me asking, he cleans without too much hinting, and lets me sleep for 12 hours straight.  I am so blessed.  I know without a doubt that Chris is going to be an amazing, patient, loving father who teaches his children all about good chocolate, SEC football, that you should always root for South Carolina and always root against Clemson, to listen to your mother and call women “ma’am”, and to love God.

And with that knowledge, I breathe a contented sigh and smile 🙂

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15 comments

  1. Sarah (Chez Lee) says:

    So sweet x I loved those weekly e-mail updates too and referring to bubs as a ‘bean’, ‘shrimp’, ‘melon’ etc!

    Wishing you a continued happy and healthy pregnancy 🙂

  2. Erin says:

    Jenny, I’m so happy for you! You are truly blessed with such a wonderful spouse and I’m confident the two of you together will make spectacular parents.

    And the “babies” comment is just too cute. 🙂

  3. cindy says:

    hi jenny
    i recently found your blog when i could not fall asleep one night. i just wanted to let you know i really enjoy reading your blog and have found so many similarities between us espeically about the move here. my husband and i just recently moved to auckland from los angeles in july for his fellowship in pediatric orthopedics. i had a hard time adjusting especially since the weather was so cloudy and rainy when we first came out and i was so tired but i did not know why at the time. we also found out we were pregnant about 1 month after moving here. although i have an ob/gyn i like now, we had some trouble with the healthcare here because i do not qualify for any of the plans since my work visa is only for one year. but things are looking better, my morning sickness is completely gone, the weather is turning into spring, and we have some great trips planned. just wanted to say keep writing cuz reading about your experiences has helped me learn what to expect. thanks.
    cindy
    p.s. the usc in my email stands for univ of southern california not to be mistaken for south carolina.

  4. Tami says:

    It’s so great that he’s so supportive, especially since you won’t have any family close-by throughout your pregnancy! What a wonderful husband you have!

    I have to admit, I grew really bored with the WTE book, and never finished reading it. Oh well. My girls turned out ok, we are nurses after all! Right?

    P.S. Will we ever get to see any belly pictures?

  5. USCEmily says:

    That’s a good man you’ve got- especially the part about teaching your child to root for South Carolina and always pull against Clemson 😉 Tell him he has my approval…haha.

  6. Ally says:

    That’s so cute 🙂 S was just like that until I became a raging hormonal monster, lol!! Just be forewarned – the hormones seriously do takeover so make sure Chris is prepared!!! 😉

  7. Rebecca Jo says:

    WAIT… did I miss a pregnancy announcement post!! I’ve been out for a bit… YIPEEE!!!

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! I’m sure you BOTH are going to be fantastic parents!!!

  8. Cristin says:

    Belated congratulations, and it is really heartening to read your story. We will start trying for a family in the next year or so, and the part that weighs most on my mind is the thought of doing it so far away from both of our families. Thanks for sharing your experience … it always helps to know that you’re not alone! Hope you’re feeling well and best wishes!

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